This is a very stinking subject. People refrained from writing but there is a need to write. Now a days i am seeing lot of peoples resorting to keeping boyfriend and girlfriend.Whether it is moral or immoral, legal or illegal i dont want to dwelve into it.
For me, one thing, i am constantly thinking is that>>>Are they unsatisfied with their parter ? Do their partners are not healthy, happy , supportive ? Do they actually require some more satisfactions,.........
But what i see is that, their first partners are okey. The man {who is keeping second spouce } wife is okey, supportive. First wife is tolerating other woman in life of her husband. Female of this second relations-ship {second wife ) is usually not married, very hungry, or she broke her marriage or she does not have hope for merriage due to various reasons.
We all see lot of persons roaming in a couples but they are not legally married. They are students, co-worker, working in same business etc. This pehenomena has engulfed whole society be it IAS or a labourer. Their desires they know ! but on the face they are content and happy in what they are doing ?
Law is biased and in practcle un-effective. I also see that office persons, relatives etc are tolerating and not objecting anything. We are not painting anyone bad. But when getting married we want a virgin girl ?
Now our double standard comes to light. It is observed that a persons married life is only 5 years. In five years s/he gets all highs if they are lucky. Then social responsibilities start. This unsastisfaction is cause of illicite relationships. We should change our mind set.
Say if we start marriage at 20 years for female and 23-25 years for male we might have 10 years healthy & productive time for couples satisfaction whitin marriage. We should reduce legally age of marriage and not opt for careers or manage , build carrers from spouses place. When we don't have the ideal man or woman, still foolling around the age old norms and laws.
We should accept that we are not able to heal the root problem. Our patches in various forms are artificial. Now, Do we join them ?Actully i don't know............. Actually we are changing. A virgin and pious persons are very rare to find and in on way to extinctions. I am also one step behind DODO. ( "dodo" a bird recently vanished from earth due to over exploitations).
For me, one thing, i am constantly thinking is that>>>Are they unsatisfied with their parter ? Do their partners are not healthy, happy , supportive ? Do they actually require some more satisfactions,.........
But what i see is that, their first partners are okey. The man {who is keeping second spouce } wife is okey, supportive. First wife is tolerating other woman in life of her husband. Female of this second relations-ship {second wife ) is usually not married, very hungry, or she broke her marriage or she does not have hope for merriage due to various reasons.
We all see lot of persons roaming in a couples but they are not legally married. They are students, co-worker, working in same business etc. This pehenomena has engulfed whole society be it IAS or a labourer. Their desires they know ! but on the face they are content and happy in what they are doing ?
Law is biased and in practcle un-effective. I also see that office persons, relatives etc are tolerating and not objecting anything. We are not painting anyone bad. But when getting married we want a virgin girl ?
Now our double standard comes to light. It is observed that a persons married life is only 5 years. In five years s/he gets all highs if they are lucky. Then social responsibilities start. This unsastisfaction is cause of illicite relationships. We should change our mind set.
Say if we start marriage at 20 years for female and 23-25 years for male we might have 10 years healthy & productive time for couples satisfaction whitin marriage. We should reduce legally age of marriage and not opt for careers or manage , build carrers from spouses place. When we don't have the ideal man or woman, still foolling around the age old norms and laws.
We should accept that we are not able to heal the root problem. Our patches in various forms are artificial. Now, Do we join them ?Actully i don't know............. Actually we are changing. A virgin and pious persons are very rare to find and in on way to extinctions. I am also one step behind DODO. ( "dodo" a bird recently vanished from earth due to over exploitations).
